My point is that I recommend only revealing what you think is prudent and what you feel comfortable revealing. That was the rationale in my poem “What She Said” that started off my memoir Left of the Dial as the prologue.
I haven’t ever been compelled to tell the people I meet that I have a diagnosis. In some ways, using a diagnosis to describe what happened isn’t helpful. Yet if I met a guy I wanted to date I would tell him this in a bare-bones way.
My point in being quoted in the Yahoo news article is that we are all of us with or without a diagnosis people first. I’m my own person. You’re your own person. Others are their own person.
Pigeonholing people into being representatives of their illnesses reinforces a stereotype.
I was quoted on Yahoo that “narrow minds are a prison”–thus I was branded a liberal.
The quicker a person reveals that he or she is spooked by your diagnosis the better off you are because you can move on to the next person. Rejection hurts a lot of us because we take it personally how people treat us when they believe the stereotypes.
Yet I just don’t care what people think. I don’t expect them to understand. So I look for the positive people because they are out there.
I met a guy so I can tell you there’s hope. I talk about my experience on Thursday. It’s possible to find a guy or gal that likes you and accepts you as you are.