This spring I turned 59.
By the time a person turns 59 they should let go of the self-doubt. They should drop-kick the critical narrator in their head that tells them: “You’re no good!”
Often this isn’t our own voice. It’s the outside insistence of people who want to sell us products that allegedly make us beautiful or worthy of love and attention. Or the calling out of those who judge us before they’ve met and gotten to know us.
Either way this is their issue not ours. I want more for my followers than to be beleaguered by self-loathing for even 5 minutes of your life.
Fifty-nine is the time to rebel the status quo. To go after what you want in this Third Chapter of your life.
Last year I thought long and hard about what goes on. The reality is that the media darlings who spread hateful and hurtful rhetoric need you and me to be who they think we are–or they would be out of business.
The fault is that social media algorithms and old-fashioned editors think hate and anger garner clicks and sell books. It’s called “clickbait” for a reason.
As a disc jockey on FM radio decades ago I played the Queen Latifah song “U-N-I-T-Y.” This sentiment appears today in an as unlikely place for inspiration as ever: Harper’s Bazaar.
The current edition is the Beauty issue. In a feature article two activists give quotes.
Latoya Ruby Frazier:
“If we want real DEMOCRACY, if we want real CHANGE, then we have to do it through UNITY and SOLIDARITY.”
Dolores Huerta:
“If we LOOK BACK on HISTORY, the big POLITICAL CHANGES we have made HAPPENED because we all came TOGETHER.”
I’ve believed all along that the media darlings who attack readers have no vested interest in the cause I champion: recovery and reconciliation.
At 59 years old I choose not to have anger. My first book Left of the Dial talked about recovery.
Choosing recovery made all the difference in my life. I firmly believe that recovery is possible from whatever illness trauma or injustice a person faces in their life.
In whatever guise recovery comes to us I believe living in recovery is far better and healthier than harboring fear anger or resentment for the rest of our lives.
Positive change happening is not a one-sided affair. Each of us can shift the needle with our own actions however small those actions might be.
What I’ve learned at 59 is that I’m okay just the way I am. You’re okay too.
Happy birthday to us spring babies! Here’s to years to come of health wealth and happiness.
Healthy years to do good and to enjoy life. Wealthy years in terms of an abundance of what gives us joy. Happy years to live in love.